What lens do you wear?

By Ess-Jee Rautenbach We are living in very interesting times. And the way we perceive the Bible and Christ is key to how we construct our lives and make decisions. The way we view the Gospel is also a great prediction of how we perceive marriage, divorce, re-marriage and separation. In this article, I will try to show you that in our generation we can get three types of Gospels. Most Christians fall in one of them. The Analogy of three Gospels can also be seen as what type of lens you are looking through. Your lens is the filter you look through -- at the Bible, Jesus, etc. This lens also determines the way you experience other believers and how you will act in certain situations. It is also the core of your belief system. Frank Viola names the three Gospels in His book, “Reimaging Church,” and he discusses them in detail. For this article’s purpose, I only touch on them shortly, just to give you an idea of why we do what we do. “A man's morality will almost always de…

Deliver us from eve

by Ess-Jee Rautenbach

Matthew Henry wrote: “The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.”

It seems like, in our generation, we have everything mixed up. It seems that husbands are taking the roles of wives and wives are taking on the role of husbands. Wherever you go, you see this phenomenon. In many cases it seems that the wife misconstrues her calling to be conformed to Christ -- she is called to be conformed to Jesus in character, not in authority. In fact, the Bible tells her specifically that she is not to be like Christ in the exercise of authority, but to be like the Church who submits to Christ's authority (Eph 5:24).

Ephesians 5:22 Amplified Bible (AMP) 22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. Ephesians 5:2…

I will Love you Unconditionally


By Ess-Jee Rautenbach 

Do you want to know the secret to a restored marriage? I have been blessed to witness many restored and resurrected marriages. It is almost my 5th year in marriage ministry and I'm going to share with you the big mystery and secret I have discovered over the years. This mystery was hidden for thousands and thousands of years. This secret or mystery to marriage restoration has been hidden for ages, but those who find it have restored and resurrected marriages. Not only do they have new life beating in them, their old lives and pasts have been wiped away and everything they now have is brand new.

What would you say is the secret to a restored marriage after divorce? I hear some of you say: “prayer, fasting, be like Jesus or try to copy Jesus Christ, forgiveness, spells, pressuring the one you love, self-help books, follow these easy steps to… etc.” My answer to you is no. I agree that some of them are good to do, but not all of them. In most of those points it i…

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

by Ess-Jee Rautenbach
This is a question I get almost every day and the sad thing about it is that most Christians who want a divorce ask this very thing. Instead of turning to Christ with this question, we turn to our Church and church leaders, and the answers that they give are for me, personally, sometimes shocking.
To make my point, I will name the six reasons most churches, pastors, counselors and Christians use to advise or even justify how God approves of divorce and why divorce can be a Biblical solution for a dead marriage. What constitutes the legitimate ending of a marriage? The following are “Biblical grounds for divorce:”
1. Death (Rom. 7:2–4; 1 Cor. 7:39) 2. Adultery (Deut. 22:22; Matt. 5:32) 3. Non-Christian files for divorce and leaves (1 Cor. 7:10–24) 4. Sexual immorality/porneia (Matt. 5:32; 19:9) 5. Treachery or treasonous betrayal (Mal. 2:14–16) 6. Hardness of heart (Matt. 19:8; Mark 10:5)
The scripture in parentheses is what people use to justify the point they want to…

Restored Marriage Ceremony