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Ess-Jee Rautenbach, Author Of ‘How To Stand For Your Marriage’ Chosen As Finalist For '50 Great Writers You Should Be Reading'

Ess-Jee Rautenbach, Author Of ‘How To Stand For Your Marriage’ Chosen As Finalist For '50 Great Writers You Should Be Reading'

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A Restored Marriage


Smoke AND Mirrors

Smoke AND Mirrors By Ess-Jee Rautenbach Hebrews 1; Introduction: God Has Spoken Fully and Finally in His Son 1:1 After God spoke long ago1 in various portions2 and in various ways3 to our ancestors4 through the prophets, 1:2 in these last days he has spoken to us in a son,5 whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom he created the world.6 1:3 The Son is7 the radiance of his glory and the representation of his essence, and he sustains all things by his powerful word,8 and so when he had accomplished cleansing for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.9 1:4 Thus he became10 so far better than the angels as11 he has inherited a name superior to theirs. As the writer points out in this powerful scripture, in the old covenant God spoke through prophets but in the new covenant He is speaking through His son who lives today in us. The more I listen to believers, the more I get the impression that most of us are following o

Standing in the light

  by Mike Feazell In the kingdom of God, righteous pretenders aren't welcome. Only sinners who know they are sinners, and who trust God to forgive them and make them righteous in Christ, are allowed in. Pretenders, who think they are in some way more deserving, or more acceptable, or less dirty than the others, can't stay.  They remain in their sins because they won't give up their little righteousness charade and trust God fully to be their righteousness. Knowing what God has done for us and in us, we are led to work on ourselves to overcome the sin that so easily entangles us (Hebrews 12:1-3). But keep this in mind: we are accepted as righteous by God only because of what Christ has already done for us, not by our three-stooges-Keystone-cops-overcoming-performance, which is the best we can ever muster. The Holy Spirit in us moves us to devotion, but the victory in which we participate is the victory of Christ (Ephesians 2:4-7). We can enjoy the glor

Standing for Christ No Matter the Cost

Stacy L. Harp October 29, 2007 “I will not run away. I am ready to take a stand.”      Saratu Turundu was thiry-five and unmarried. She loved kids so much and desperately wanted her own, but God had not answered her prayer.     Saratu chose to devote herself to God and the church. She embraced her church family with her whole heart and especially loved teaching Sunday school. Her interaction with the kids and her opportunity to show them the way to Christ fulfilled Saratu with incredible joy. She knew she could never be happy without Christ.  Read more on this article  , please visit :

Standing Against All Odds

If your foundations are in Jesus Christ, then you can weather the storm. You can endure the crisis. You can walk through the fire. Because you are standing on Him who is the immovable Rock. Sometimes God will deliver you from trouble. Other times He will deliver you through it. For more on this article please visit Frank Violas blog @

Hey you! You're Not Worthless

Hey you! You're Not Worthless “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.”  Psalm 27:10 I think one of the worst things that we standers feel from rejection of our spouses, is the feeling of worthlessness.  How many times have you felt like you weren't worth loving because  your spouse left you?  I know I have struggled with this myself. About a week ago in my prayer time with God, He revealed to me that I still see myself as worthless because my spouse rejected our marriage.  He also told me this is one of the enemy's biggest lies, and that none of His people are worthless.  I know you can relate to the way that I've felt in the past 3 years, because we can't seem to understand why our spouses have rejected us, or why they haven't come back yet.   Here's how valuable we are to God: "Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father.  But even

Stand Analogy

Stand Analogy By Ess-Jee Rautenbach In the Christian culture we live in today it seems that we are a bit confused on what we need to do in our battle with our adversary the devil. Some teach that you got to fight darkness and the other says that demons and the devil got extinct with the dinosaurs. There are so many conclusions on what our responsibility is and what is Gods responsibility and where does the devil fit in, in all this. In this article I will try to show you the right way to battle the enemy and the wrong way. What is the truth around spiritual warfare and how to really have an affect in the spiritual realm? Did you ever come to a point that you ask yourself,”Why am I doing what I am doing”. I have heard numerous people saying that they must pray more, vast more, and then God will move for me in my situation. Is that true, can Gods arm be turned by us reciting prayers to Him? To start of we must start by the right foundation. That is where I will

A Promise Ready Stander

It's been awhile since I've written a devotion, but i felt the prompting of the Holy Spirit to write and tell you all what God has been sharing and teaching me and wants me to teach you.   God has been speaking to me so much lately, and I know that we all need encouragement, so please open your heart to hear what God is saying to his people. First, God wants you all to know, as standers, that He wants you to LET GO of your spouse.  WHOA KRYSTAL!  What does that mean?  For years as a stander, I've often heard that we need to let go, and so many of us do not know what that means, here is the meaning.  Quit focusing on your spouse.  Quit looking at what your spouse is doing, quit being anxious, turn your WHOLE FOCUS on God.  Nothing less than everything.    Come to a complete point of contentment in your stand.  If you haven't, if you're still anxious and doubting or wondering if God will really restore your marriage, then you haven't let go.  LET GO and LET

Ess-Jee Rautenbach interviewing Amanda Beth, Author of "You can have a happy family".

Amanda Beth is a wife of fifteen years, mother of four children, and author of You Can Have a Happy Family – Steps to Enjoying Your Marriage and Children (available at: Amazon & Barnes & Noble ). She has experienced a transformation in her life and marriage since she surrendered her heart to Christ ten years ago. She now passionately desires to help other individuals and families find healing in Christ. Her teachings on marriage and spiritual growth can be found on her website ( ) and her blog ( ).   1.      Most authors have one very specific reason for writing a particular book.  What was your reason for writing You Can Have A Happy Family: Steps to Enjoying Your Marriage and Children? About four or five years ago, God put the desire in my heart to write someday. Three years ago, while leading Bible Studies in my home, I came across a local publishing class. I felt the Lord strongly leading me to take the class. At the time, I fully e


5.0 out of 5 stars Spirit-filled!!! , March 25, 2012 By  Amanda Beth - See all my reviews This review is from: How To Stand For Your Marriage: Giving hope to a broken generation (Paperback) "Long enough has the enemy enslaved spouses to sin and bondage. Long enough has he broken up loving families, destroying both spouses or destroying their children emotionally. ENOUGH!! It stops here with our generation; this is the season of restoration and reconciliation. Will you join me and lift up the sword of truth which is the Word of God and follow your commander and chief, Jesus into the battle field?" I couldn't agree more with what the Lord led Ess-Jee to write in this powerful, spirit-filled book! Divorces are on a rise within the Christian community. We must STAND for our marriages and not let the enemy steal, kill, and destroy the precious gift God has given us! I was truly inspired by Ess-Jee's testimony, standing for his wi

Readers Favorite Book Review

Book Review Reviewed by Anne B. for Readers Favorite "Stand For Your Marriage" reminds people of God’s intention for marriage. Marriage vows are a promise “until death do we part.” Scripture teaches us “what God has joined together let no man put asunder.” So why has marriage become disposable? It certainly isn’t the will of God and if it isn’t of God it must be the will of Satan. Ess-Jee Rautenbach stands firm on God’s purpose and offers hope for floundering marriages . All marriages go through rocky periods . However, that does not mean we are released from our vows, responsibilities or commitments. Divorce does not hurt only the husband and wife but their children, grandchildren, parents, siblings, and friends. Rautenbach reminds us that we have a great authority to turn to when our marriage falls apart. Instead we turn to friends, family and the therapist for their advice and comfort. I am impressed with the message of this book. The plot is based on sc

Love is a ability

Any one of us can fall in love and even feel loved. But to really love is a ability. Like any ability the more one practice, the easier it becomes to do. It is almost like riding a bicycle. In the start we get on and after a while we fall of, but the more we train ourselves to ride the bicycle the more natural it becomes for us. The same can apply to love. The more we stay committed to someone the more our ability will become to love that person. The sad thing in our society is that it is so consumer based, that if you fall out of love , one can choose to get a newer model. Love is something everybody wants, but not many will fight for it. Not many will stick it out in there marriage till the dying flame get rekindled again. Me personally has come to a conclusion that, I think it is absolutely ridiculous to trade in one mate for another when all you are going to do over time is turn the second marriage into a shadow of the first. Love is something grant, something spectacular.

The Rumor's Secret

In addition to being a stander, guide for other standers and bi-lingual author, Ess-Jee Rautenbach is a really good artist! In fact, he just helped Author Beth Durkee doctor up a picture for the cover of her newest short title, The Rumor's Secret. Way to go, Ess-Jee!   Link too Rumor"s Secret by Beth Durkee  

What is a happy marriage?

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Ruth Bell Graham

Determined stander

EssJee is one of the most determined standers I have had the opportunity to minister to during the beginning of his crisis. There is no doubt that the Lord has His hand on this man.The ministry that the Lord has given him is helping so many people to understand that even if you do have marriage problems, you don’t just give up, walk out the door, sign a few papers, and it’s over. God's plan for ma rriage is until DEATH do you part. Not any time before. EssJee and I have been called and chosen for this ministry. He and I have a job to do to teach those that the Lord brings to us that we are to never give up on our spouse. The job that we have is to continually encourage those who are hurting from the pain of a covenant husband or wife wanting to call it quits, separate, or even go so far as divorce. Standing for your marriage is something that the Lord is calling ALL married people to do. It doesn’t matter what country you live in, what your family, friends, co-wor

Marriage: My Beloved

My Beloved

In the silence I sit and wait, for my beloved to return to her righteous state. The journey may seem hard and long, but my longing for her has never been so strong. I know that everybody thinks I’m crazy, but the Lords says, “Keep on praying and don’t be lazy”. Jesus holds the keys to her heart, so I will never stop standing, until those keys unlock the lock to my beloved’s heart. My love for her will never end, even when my earthly life comes to an end. My Lord He knows I love her so, this undying love I have never known. Return soon my love, to our home where you will never be alone. May my all be for you my love, an undying love that will never lie down. I will not give up, give in or give over, until this breakdown is turned over. You must know I will never let you go, even if it may sometimes feel the only way to go. Even when hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God. Thank you God for this wife you have given me, a priceless gift, I will cherish forever. In the dark valleys

Money will fix our problems?

In many marriages today it seems that only money can solve all our problems, or so many perceive it that way. If we just had more money we could solve all our problems? Maybe if I work overtime or what about a quick money scam? There must be something I can do to solve my financial crisis? There is an old saying that goes:” When money is out the front door love leaves at the back door”. In many marriages, that is the case and sometimes it is even the other way around. Most of us when we get married we say the words: for better or for worse, in richer in poorer. But what actually mean is only for better and only for richer. Many partners leave when there financial circumstances get worse and it seems to them they can’t handle the current circumstances. This is such a sad scene; didn’t we vow to stay with our partners till deaths do us a part? Well not many think of the marriage vows that way anymore. If someone doesn’t make you happy, maybe you would find someone better who would?