The Secret to MARRIAGE RESTORATION

By Ess-Jee Rautenbach 
  
Do you want to know the secret to a restored marriage? I have been blessed to witness many restored and resurrected marriages. It is almost my 5^th year in marriage ministry and I'm going to share with you the big mystery and secret I have discovered over the years. This mystery was hidden for thousands and thousands of years. This secret or mystery to marriage restoration has been hidden for ages, but those who find it have restored and resurrected marriages. Not only do they have new life beating in them, their old lives and pasts have been wiped away and everything they now have is brand new.

What would you say is the secret to a restored marriage after divorce? I hear some of you say: “prayer, fasting, be like Jesus or try to copy Jesus Christ, forgiveness, spells, pressuring the one you love, self-help books, follow these easy steps to… etc.” My answer to you is no. I agree that some of them are good to do, but not all of them. In most of those points it is us, a fallen human being, trying to do or create something out of our own wisdom and strength, operating on our terms and doing what we were taught to do when everything falls apart.

Let me start to unpack the secret for you:

²⁶ the mystery hidden for ages and generations but now revealed to his saints. Colossians 1:26 English Standard Version (ESV)

“Unto you it is given to know the mystery of the kingdom of God: but unto them that are without, all [these] things are done in parables.” (Mark 4:11)

God created a plan and kept it a mystery, which was foreordained before the world was created and kept secret for thousands of years. 

God’s mystery (plan), which hath been hid from ages and from generations, but now is made manifest to his saints: (Col 1:26)

Amos 3:7 Surely the Lord GOD does nothing Unless He reveals His secret counsel To His servants the prophets.

Matthew 13:11 Jesus answered them, "To you it has been granted to know the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it has not been granted.

Luke 8:10 And He said, "To you it has been granted to know the mysteries of the kingdom of God, but to the rest it is in parables, so that SEEING THEY MAY NOT SEE, AND HEARING THEY MAY NOT UNDERSTAND.

Ephesians 3:9 and to bring to light what is the administration of the mystery which for ages has been hidden in God who created all things;

Romans 16:25 according to the revelation of the mystery which has been kept secret for long ages past,

Ephesians 1:9 He made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His kind intention which He purposed in Him

To fully understand this mystery, we must also start to understand God’s eternal purpose from before time. If you read the Bible from Genesis to Revelations, then you will see that there is a golden thread going through the whole Bible. There are four elements in God’s eternal plan and they are: a bride, a house, a body and a family. On those points alone we can spend hours writing and speaking, but I'm not going to do that in this article. I just want to give you a wider vision into God’s timeless mystery. Do you want to know the big secret, the mystery that can change not only your life but your partner’s life as well? Okay, here we go:

Colossians 1:27

To whom God would make known the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory:

The resurrected, ascended and eternal Jesus Christ is the answer. I’m not speaking of you trying to be like Christ. I'm talking of Jesus Christ, living through you and you living from the divine life who is Christ Jesus our Lord. What Jesus will do is not the answer. But what Christ is doing through me at this very moment. Jesus Christ is God’s mystery that was hidden for ages and with His death at the cross. His resurrection from the dead and ascension to heaven was made known to us, our generation. He became a life-giving spirit that can live in us if we accept Him as our Lord and savior. Many Christians accept Jesus as there Lord, but then they don’t surrender their lives to Him.

To have a victorious life is for us to completely turn our lives to Him and start to learn how to live with Christ in us. Many of us take a bite of the tree of life but then go back and eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

I know of many standers standing for the healing of their marriages and working their bumpers off praying, fasting, etc. At the end they burn out, and many stop their stands and even give up. Why? Because they are doing it, they are not trusting God to do the heavy lifting. I’m not saying that you don’t have to do anything. Our responsibility is to live married and pursue our indwelling Lord. In this dark time, learn how to grow closer to God. Put your focus completely on Christ. If your spouse has left you or even divorced you, put them in God’s hands and leave them there. Trust Jesus to do what must be done. They are God’s responsibility, not yours.

It seems that in our Christian culture of today we have fallen into a trap. We have taken our focus off Christ and in many cases we have put it on our spouses or what problem we may have. Our foundation isn’t Christ anymore, making our spouses and circumstances bigger than Christ. I challenge you today. Take your eyes off all your circumstances and your spouse. Put them on Christ. Jesus Christ loves you so much. Rest in Him. Let His peace reign in your heart. Let Him love through you, stand through you and become all to you. The changes that Christ wants to make in your heart, only He can do. For us to mess in His plans is actually delaying what He wants for our lives.

Christ resides in you. There is always hope because Christ in us is our Hope and Glory. To Him be the glory forever and ever.

The answer to marriage restoration is the person JESUS CHRIST.