This blog endeavors to generate hope and healing in the midst of broken, hurting marriages.
Giving Hope to the Hopeless
Here are some letters we received from people we helped through our book and ministry, may each one bless you;
"Essjee, I am trying so hard to forgive myself of what I have done. But every time when something comes up, my husband will remind me. and it becomes so hard because he will call me names. I know I am the one who needs to be changed first because there are some issues that I still struggle with. I know I need God to help to be honest with my husband on the issue of finances, and I am not, I know that where I really need help.
The other issue is when I realize what my husband is doing justifying his affair, I become so mad. Because he said one day I will answer before God for causing him to backslide. Keep on praying with me and for me."
Your words are very encouraging. The holidays make it tougher to deal with but I am standing. I will review the materials.
I saw your email on Facebook and I'm writing in for prayer for my husband and me. Please pray for us!!! God showed me that we are supposed to stay married and we've been separated for two months. I know that we need to reconcile but I can't get in touch with my husband - he won't return my calls or emails. Please pray that any wall would be broken down. I'm getting weak and tired from all of the praying - I've been praying non-stop for the past two months, right after God showed me that I was supposed to. He has transformed my life, which has been beautiful, but I just know that we are supposed to be back together, and that it should be soon because my son and I have had sicknesses and accidents happen.
Baie dankie vir wat jy met my deel en jou woorde van bemoediging!!!!
oh thankyou brother...I want to send you a big hug in God!!!!!! it will be used for his glory to help his people.
Thank you Essjee,
I can’t stop thinking about my husband and all the memories of last year this time that we planned a holiday, I think something hectic in his life must have happened for him to be so broken and confused and for him to keep running. I was just tormented by confusion and questions specifically if the person I thought I knew really existed and if he really as some believe, lied to me about everything,
You are an angel. I needed someone to talk to.
Thanks for you email! Last night my husband called "just" to talk. When he said he needed to go, he said "BABE Gotta Go" Haven't heard Babe in along time.
It seems like you are the only person I can talk to because many do not understand and I did not understand why I had to stand for my marriage.
I trust that the Lord has sent me to your website and I have found so much inspiration.
Hello EssJee. I admit that i have been hooked on your website for about a month now. Everyday i am o on the website
Its good to know that there are men and woman out there who are standing for
their marriage despite what the world think.
Thank you for the confirmation, I feel much better knowing that I have to be humble.
I have to pray without ceasing, believing in miracles and thank you for your prayers.
It's been awhile since I've written a devotion, but i felt the prompting of the Holy Spirit to write and tell you all what God has been sharing and teaching me and wants me to teach you. God has been speaking to me so much lately, and I know that we all need encouragement, so please open your heart to hear what God is saying to his people. First, God wants you all to know, as standers, that He wants you to LET GO of your spouse. WHOA KRYSTAL! What does that mean? For years as a stander, I've often heard that we need to let go, and so many of us do not know what that means, here is the meaning. Quit focusing on your spouse. Quit looking at what your spouse is doing, quit being anxious, turn your WHOLE FOCUS on God. Nothing less than everything. Come to a complete point of contentment in your stand. If you haven't, if you're still anxious and doubting or wondering if God will really restore your marriage, then you haven't let go. LET GO and LET
Say What Now??? MASTERING MARRIAGE I’m sure you were not expecting the woman who wrote “Motivated to Love” to write a blog of this nature. You may ask, “Isn’t this hypocritical?” “Aren’t you talking out of both sides of your mouth?” It may seem that way, but before you stone me, hear me out…you may be shocked at the content of this post. When Is Enough, Enough? 10 Reasons Standing for Your Marriage will NOT Work